I grew up not lacking for much. Sure there was that time in 7th grade when I wanted an outfit from The Express (remember ladies?) and mom refused to spend that much money on an outfit and she took me to Belk’s instead (la la lame). But truly, I had all I needed and most of what I wanted.
After I got married, similar scenario. I proudly bought my first car, husband was working for his dad’s company (our gas was paid for!) etc etc. I assumed, nah let’s be real, I took for granted the comfort I was used to. “Oh thank you God for my many blessings”, I’d proclaim, but deep down I’d tell myself that if we needed anything, “no worries daddy will give you a raise or a bonus”. We were sitting pretty… so I thought.
I had given birth to my 2nd daughter 6months prior, when my husband called me to say his dad was selling the company and he was out of a job. “WHAT?!” I exclaimed! “WHEN?” Next week ..was his reply. Stunned and clearly scared, with 2 kids at home, I was working very part time at the private mental health practice I was dabbling in. After a day or two of fretting, I put on my big girl panties and told my hubby, “I’m going to work full time, since I can, and you should be the stay at home dad”. He was down with that while he looked for work, and so I got busy.
When I say busy I mean I got busy. As in God opened up the flood gates. Clients were pouring in. I had to hire multiple therapists to take on all that was coming in. It was in that moment of fear and unknown that God showed up and showed out as He always does. He took something very difficult for my family and used that hardship to elevate me into my next season. He clearly reminded me that HE IS MY PROVIDER. Not daddy, not father in law, not man. Jehovah Jireh, God is our provider.
And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19 ESV
In my private practice I specialize in treating women. Many of my clients have gone through or are going through a divorce. Many of them, single moms, fret about finances. Fret about providing. Fret that the ex will stop paying child support or that what he’s required to send is hardly enough.
I want to encourage you, single divorced mom, GOD is your Provider. HE IS Jehovah Jireh. Man is not your provider. Your ex, he may be withholding child support. Jehovah Jireh is your Provider. Your job that you tirelessly work – only to see your kids a few hours in the evening, that is barely covering things- that boss is not your provider. HE is your Provider.
Relax. Let God show up and show out in your life, so that you may know He loves you. He knows what you need and He wants you to fully trust Him to provide for your every need.
“If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers—most of which are never even seen—don’t you think he’ll attend to you, take pride in you, do his best for you? What I’m trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God’s giving. People who don’t know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.
“Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes. Matthew 6:30-34 MSG
God helped me deal with the hard things that came up when the time came. HE knew long before I knew, that He would use a hardship to not only take me into my next season, but that He would use that hardship as a lesson for me to let go and know that He is My Provider.
Blessings to you,